said-vs-communicated

Analyze communication gaps between spoken intent and received impact.

1|Updated Apr 1, 2026
One-click install
npx skills add https://github.com/wojons/je-ne-sais-quoi --skill said-vs-communicated
Or copy as Structured Prompt for Agent
Please help me install this Agent Skill.
Skill: said-vs-communicated
Source: https://github.com/wojons/je-ne-sais-quoi/tree/main/skills/said-vs-communicated
Command: npx skills add https://github.com/wojons/je-ne-sais-quoi --skill said-vs-communicated

SYSTEM DOCUMENTATION & REQUIREMENTS

What problem does it solve?

It helps AI understand the felt gap between what someone says and what another person actually receives, so guidance can focus on impact (landing) instead of just intent (delivery).

Core Features & Use Cases

  • Said vs communicated framing: Treats miscommunication as a meaning-landing phenomenon rather than a semantics or intent-detection task.
  • Context-sensitive meaning: Explains why the same words can carry different “weights” depending on relationship, timing, power, history, and surrounding situation.
  • Repair-by-landing guidance: Supports responses that acknowledge what arrived and how it was received—especially when “I didn’t mean it that way” is irrelevant to the harm.

Quick Start

Use the said-vs-communicated skill to rewrite your AI response so it addresses what the other person likely received, not what you meant when you said it.

Frequently Asked Questions about said-vs-communicated

High-intent search queries and answers about installing and using this skill.

FAQPage Schema
How do I address miscommunication when what I said lands differently than I meant?

To address miscommunication, focus on the impact of what was received rather than your delivery intent. Use repair language that acknowledges what arrived and validates the other person's feelings, especially when a statement of intent like "I didn't mean it that way" fails to resolve the harm.

Why does the same phrase carry different emotional impact depending on the relationship context?

The emotional impact of a phrase shifts because communication meaning is context-sensitive. Factors like relationship dynamics, power imbalances, timing, and shared history all change the weight a listener assigns to specific words, causing identical phrases to land differently across various interactions.

What is the best way to repair a conversation after a loaded phrase causes unintended harm?

The best way to repair a conversation is using repair-by-landing guidance. Acknowledge what the other person actually received and felt instead of defending your original intent, directly addressing the nonverbal meaning and emotional impact caused by the miscommunication.

How do power dynamics change the meaning of what is communicated in high-stakes conversations?

Power dynamics change meaning by altering how a listener receives and interprets a message. In high-stakes contexts, a comment from someone with more authority carries heavier emotional impact and nonverbal meaning, making context-grounded analysis essential for resolving miscommunication.

Does this approach to communication analysis work when intent-only explanations fail?

Yes, this approach works when intent-only explanations fail because it treats miscommunication as a meaning-landing phenomenon. It bypasses intent detection to provide felt, context-grounded guidance that directly addresses the emotional impact of what was communicated.