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sue-johnson-eft-perspective

Identify Demon Dialogues and map attachment triggers using Sue Johnson's EFT framework.

114|12|Updated May 18, 2026
Search Tags:#communication#conflict-resolution#eft#attachment-theory#relationship-counseling#emotion-coaching#therapy-guidance
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Source: https://github.com/swaylq/master-skill/tree/main/prototypes/love-coach-master/output/sub-skills/sue-johnson-eft
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SYSTEM DOCUMENTATION & REQUIREMENTS

What problem does it solve?

This skill helps you stop recurring relationship conflict by reframing arguments through EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy): identifying attachment-driven cycles, uncovering raw emotional triggers, and guiding the steps toward reconnection.

Core Features & Use Cases

  • Demon Dialogue cycle identification: Detects patterns like Find the Bad Guy, Protest Polka (pursue–withdraw), and Freeze/Flee to shift from blame to cycle awareness.
  • Attachment-trigger (Raw Spots) mapping: Surfaces the underlying attachment anxieties behind specific fights so you can address the real need, not only the event.
  • EFT repair structure (A.R.E. + 7 Conversations): Assesses Accessible/Responsive/Engaged and recommends an appropriate repair path, including the EFT 7 Conversations for relationship repair planning.

Use cases: frequent arguing, feeling stuck in chase/avoid dynamics, wanting a guided approach to “how do we repair after conflict?”, and deciding whether self-help versus finding an ICEEFT-certified EFT therapist is more appropriate.

Quick Start

Use the skill to plan an EFT-based repair conversation by asking: “Using Sue Johnson’s EFT framework, identify our likely Demon Dialogue cycle, the Raw Spots triggering it, and the A.R.E. area most missing, then propose next steps for repair.”

Frequently Asked Questions about sue-johnson-eft-perspective

High-intent search queries and answers about installing and using this skill.

FAQPage Schema
How do I identify recurring relationship conflict patterns using EFT?▼

EFT identifies recurring relationship conflict patterns by detecting Demon Dialogues like the Protest Polka or Freeze/Flee, shifting focus from individual blame to cycle awareness. This framework maps pursue-withdraw dynamics to reveal underlying attachment triggers driving arguments.

What are raw spots in emotionally focused therapy and how do I map them?▼

Raw spots in emotionally focused therapy are underlying attachment anxieties triggered during specific fights. Mapping raw spots surfaces these hidden emotional vulnerabilities, allowing couples to address the real attachment needs driving conflict rather than only debating surface events.

How do I plan an EFT repair conversation after an argument?▼

Plan an EFT repair conversation by assessing A.R.E. (Accessible, Responsive, Engaged) dynamics and applying the EFT 7 Conversations model. This structure guides de-escalation and reconnection planning through cycle-aware, attachment-based communication steps.

What is the A.R.E. framework in attachment-based relationship counseling?▼

The A.R.E. framework in attachment-based relationship counseling stands for Accessible, Responsive, and Engaged. It assesses emotional availability between partners to determine missing connection areas and recommend appropriate EFT repair paths.

Can I use EFT self-help or do I need a certified therapist for conflict resolution?▼

EFT self-help through cycle awareness and the 7 Conversations model can address partner communication problems, but deciding whether self-help suffices versus finding an ICEEFT-certified EFT therapist depends on conflict severity and emotional safety.

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