the-shape-of-the-self
CommunityFeel the boundary where you end and others begin.
Education & Research#psychology#self-awareness#assertiveness#felt experience#interpersonal boundaries#embodied cognition#relational ethics
Authorwojons
Version1.0.0
Installs0
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What problem does it solve?
It helps you understand the felt experience of healthy interpersonal boundaries so you can recognize intrusion, stop erasure, and respond with an authentic “no” that doesn’t require justification.
Core Features & Use Cases
- Interprets boundaries as sensation, not rules: Reframes boundaries as an embodied “shape” you discover through physical and emotional cues.
- Connects behavior to phenomenology: Explains why seemingly logical answers feel hollow by focusing on the internal weight of the moment (flinch, hesitation, pressure, “permission” that isn’t permission).
- Guides boundary-realism in relationships: Provides felt-facing tests for scenarios like unexplained refusals, empty calendar space, helpful intrusions, suffocating love, and porous self-abandonment.
- Failure-mode contrast: Teaches how hollow, therapeutic, or clinical framing misses what the boundary actually feels like from inside.
Quick Start
Ask the AI to run the “filt-test” by comparing a boundary situation in your life against the skill’s felt explanations and its hollow-answer failure mode.
Dependency Matrix
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Please help me install this Skill: Name: the-shape-of-the-self Download link: https://github.com/wojons/je-ne-sais-quoi/archive/main.zip#the-shape-of-the-self Please download this .zip file, extract it, and install it in the .claude/skills/ directory.
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