having-difficult-conversations

Guide difficult conversations using SBI, CORE, NVC, and Radical Candor frameworks.

Updated Jun 2, 2026
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Skill: having-difficult-conversations
Source: https://github.com/PSkinnerTech/lenny-skills/tree/main/skills/having-difficult-conversations
Command: npx skills add https://github.com/PSkinnerTech/lenny-skills --skill having-difficult-conversations-pskinnertech

SYSTEM DOCUMENTATION & REQUIREMENTS

💡 This Skill includes references (resource) components.

What problem does it solve?

Having Difficult Conversations provides a practical playbook to navigate tough feedback, performance discussions, and conflict using proven frameworks from leading practitioners and a compendium of guest insights.

Core Features & Use Cases

  • Structured frameworks: Apply SBI, CORE, NVC, and Radical Candor to real conversations to keep feedback objective and productive.
  • Preparation & framing: Guidelines to collect evidence, set outcomes, and navigate defensiveness in high-stakes talks.
  • Real-world examples: Insights from dozens of guest practitioners to model effective delivery and response.

Quick Start

Practice a guided conversation using the recommended frameworks and prompts.

Frequently Asked Questions about having-difficult-conversations

High-intent search queries and answers about installing and using this skill.

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How do I prepare for a difficult conversation at work?

To prepare for a difficult conversation, collect objective evidence, define desired outcomes, and apply structured frameworks like SBI or Radical Candor. This approach ensures feedback remains clear, objective, and productive while helping you anticipate and navigate potential defensiveness.

What is the SBI framework for giving feedback?

The SBI framework structures difficult conversations by focusing on Situation, Behavior, and Impact. It keeps feedback objective by grounding it in specific events and observable actions, ensuring discussions remain productive and reducing the likelihood of triggering defensiveness.

How do I use Radical Candor during a performance review?

Use Radical Candor during performance reviews by balancing personal care with direct challenge. This framework helps navigate high-stakes discussions by ensuring feedback is both compassionate and clear, combining it with preparation guidelines to model effective delivery.

Can I role-play conflict resolution scenarios to practice feedback techniques?

Yes, you can role-play conflict resolution scenarios to practice structured feedback techniques. Using guided prompts and frameworks like NVC and CORE, you can rehearse real-world examples, model effective delivery, and refine your responses to defensiveness before the actual conversation.

What is the best way to handle defensiveness in high-stakes discussions?

The best way to handle defensiveness in difficult conversations is to use structured frameworks like NVC and CORE to maintain emotional clarity. By preparing evidence and setting clear outcomes beforehand, you can navigate reactions objectively and keep the dialogue productive.

When should I use CORE vs NVC for tough talks?

Use CORE or NVC for tough talks depending on the context: CORE helps structure objective feedback delivery, while Nonviolent Communication emphasizes empathetic observation and need identification. Both frameworks ensure difficult conversations remain constructive and ethically grounded.